Celebrate Love Regardless of Your Relationship Status

Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life. -Proverbs 13:12

There is a lot of emphasis being put on singles and uplifting them during the Valentine’s Day holiday. There’s nothing wrong with that. But, I truly despise the whole “don’t make it a big deal or ignore people in love on Valentine’s Day speech.” Listening to this advice will only make you bitter.

This is a wonderful time for people who are in relationships or marriages to celebrate their love. To show appreciation for all of the bright and dark seasons that every relationship faces, yet survives and grows deeper.

When I was a single woman I wanted to be married desperately. I had moved to St. Louis for grad school and had no family near. There was no singles ministry in the small, store front church I attended so I had to “make due” the best I could.

I remember times coming home from church and standing at my front door saddened to turn my key because I knew that there was no one on the other side waiting for me.

A great change occurred about a month before I met the man who would become my husband. I felt like he lived with me before I ever laid eyes on him. And because of that I no longer felt alone. I had always felt God’s presence in my home. But, suddenly I felt like there was a third person. I had such a peace and comfort.

God knew how sad I had become about being single. So He sent a spirit of peace to reside inside my home. Something to ease the pain of being alone. It was a wonderful thing and I am eternally grateful.

Some Church people will tell you to “just get over it” or “don’t think about it and God will send you a mate”. Listen to me: you can not manipulate God. He knows your heart. You can fake it on the outside but He sees inwardly your toils and desires.

He knew it was not good for Adam to be alone. He also knows that your heart will be sick when your hope is deferred. Ask God to send you a peace until you receive that desire that will be a tree of life to you.

Don’t become bitter at love but pursue the hope of your coming love and celebrate the current love today and forever.

Now when your desire comes don’t forget to thank God for sending you such a wonderful gift. Appreciate it. Celebrate it. Don’t feel ashamed or let the marital status of others keep you from enjoying your spouse. Embrace all there is about your unique love story. It’s amazing how God who is jealous for me, gifted me with a husband that I would fall hopelessly in love with. He loves me enough to know that I needed a spouse. Someone to love me, nurture me and ironically help me grow closer in my relationship with another man-Jesus Christ.